Quote - written by Neale D Walsch

The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation. You are not discovering yourself, but creating yourself anew. Seek therefore, not to find out Who You Are, but seek to determine Who You Want to Be.
― Neale Donald Walsch

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Dedicated to the One's I Love and Cherish.

                                                                                                    

My Journal

                            - Dedicated to Me, Myself and I.

                            - Dedicated also to Kris Anthony Richards,
                              and Michael Deram Richards.

  What Reason do I have for writing this Journal?

My purpose of writing this Journal/blog is to record my story so that my boys can remember me and learn who I once was, through my eyes.

 I would like my boys to know how I view myself and for them to understand why our perception of life is different.

I would like to share with them my journey through
 interesting and challenging contexts of my personality.

My primary interest is to discover the real meaning or the central purpose of my life and how I attained it.

 I am a seeker of the truth.

We each have our truth that we must discover for ourselves.
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The truth of who we are and why we are who we are. Once we uncover this truth, we can move on to become the person that we WANT to be. http://www.bobbieann.net/Introduction.html

 What is the reality of who we are?

 Who am I?

What is the truth of why we are here on earth? 

What do I believe?

What engages my passion?

What brings tears of gratitude?

And joy to my eyes?

Do I know myself?

Or have I lost myself?

What were my childhood interests?

What were my childhood dreams?

What are my values, goals and lifestyle choices?

I want to use my journal as means of self-expression, and self-awareness,

This journal is going to be my companion on the road to self-discovery
and as a productive recovery tool.

I believe and hope that once I have written down my feelings and thoughts, it will help me clarify things in my mind.

I want to change many things about myself and how I view others and the world.

I want to attempt to develop new insights about myself.
I also hope that my story might help others who are facing the hardships that I have had to live through.
I will use my journal to write my thoughts and feelings to aid me with my emotional pain and recovery.

I will write about my going concerns.

The main challenges and lessons that I am currently working on and how I am handling them to date.

I enjoy investigating and learning what I want to know and then I like to share those gems of knowledge with others by publishing information on my blog.

I won't try to fob you off by saying I am a Personal Development expert.

But what I will claim is to be is a student of life who loves to learn and research and discover new things to help with my Self Growth.
My writing not only comes from research but also from life experience, thinking, questioning and observing.

 It is written from Memory to the best of my recollection and from the Heart.

My whole life has been a search for Meaning, Purpose & completeness

। search for a more meaningful, balanced life with personal peace of mind.

All my life I have lived in this great ocean of life searching for that something that would fill the empty feeling that I feel I have carried with me since childhood. I yearn for something that I cannot see but know exists. i can't ignore this feeling as it cries out to me day and night.

I have O.C.P.D(Obsessive,Compulsive Personality Disorder) and I am a perfectionist. I spent all my time cleaning and when I am not cleaning I spend my time on one of my other obsessions. But I feel that I was put on this earth to be more than just a cleaner. I do believe there must be a purpose for me being here. Why was i given intelligence if all I am meant to do is clean.? That makes no sense.

So against all odds I am on my journey - a journey of discovery.

it begins as all Journey's do - with one single step.

- a simple moment of choice.

There are so many things I don't understand.
 I lack a higher Perspective.

At the moment I am weary. I feel like I have travelled so far only to end up further back. I feel exhausted and beaten.

I have so many obstacles in my way - Compulsions,Obsessions and Addictions. My Thoughts, the conscious and the unconcious ones.

Fear is what stops me moving forward and I know this is only      False  Evidence Appearing Real.

Being intelligent helps me to understand that I must make these changes if I ever want to find peace, Love and myself.

I need to follow the path that will lead me to My Awakened Self of Consciousness.

I want and yearn to discover the truth of my existence.

Relationships

7 Essential ingredients needed in making any relationship work for you

http://www.relationshiptalk.net/7-essential-ingredients-in-making-any-relationship-work-for-you-138.html

(Click the link above to read the full article.)

The 7 essential ingredients needed are:

Communication

I hear the words, the thoughts, the feeling tones, the personal meaning, even the meaning that is below the conscious intent of the speaker. Sometimes too, in a message which superficially is not very important, I hear a deep human cry that lies buried and unknown far below the surface of the person.
So I have learned to ask myself, can I hear the sounds and sense the shape of this other person's inner world? Can I resonate to what he is saying so deeply that I sense the meanings he is afraid of, yet would like to communicate, as well as those he knows?

Carl R Rogers

Honesty

Honesty is the first chapter of the book wisdom.” 
― Thomas Jefferson

Trust

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter: 
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said:
"No, Dad. You hold my hand." 
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father. 

"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. 
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go." 

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.

Empathy

Sympathy means feeling sorry for someone going through a bad situation, while empathy means putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and feeling what they are feeling.

Compromise

Compassion

I've learned that I have a lot of compassion for people. I've learned that crying and admitting when you're wrong are signs of strength, not weakness. I've learned that love is more important than money, power, or sex. I've learned that forgiveness heals everyone, most importantly you. I've learned that laughter is truly the best medicine for the soul. I've learned that you can't take life too seriously. I've learned that sometimes listening to what others have to say is the best therapy. I've learned that how people treat you is their karma and how you react is yours. I've learned that I've learned a lot, but still know very little.

Love

Ways To Get To A Girls Heart-- 1. Hug her from behind. 2. Grab her hand when you guys walk next to each other. 3. When standing, wrap your arms around her. 4. Cuddle with her. 5. Dont force her to do ANYTHING! 6. Write little notes. 7. Compliment her. 8. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible. 9. Say I love you.....and MEAN IT! 10. Brush the hair out of her eyes 11. Comfort her when she cries. 12. Love her with all your heart Girls- add this if you think its sweet. Guys- add this if you would do any of it

Finally, in order to make these 7 essential ingredients work for you in any type of relationship endeavor on which you choose to embark, it is necessary to be balanced. Balance or moderation is paramount in anything we do; but most especially in our interactions with each other. The more balanced our relationships are, the more pleasant they will be. The more pleasant they are, the happier we will be and the longer those relationships will last.

In fact, once more of us practice moderation in our lives and in our relationships with others, the sooner hatred, enmity and war will be a thing of the past.

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http://www.chiff.com/a/good-parenting.htm

I came across this article at

http://www.chiff.com/a/good-parenting.htm

and thought i would share it with my readers!


Here is a quick overview of the Ten Basic Principles:




1. What you do matters.

“Tell yourself that every day. How you treat and respond to your child should come from a knowledgeable, deliberate sense of what you want to accomplish. Always ask yourself: What effect will my decision have on my child?”



2. You cannot be too loving.

“When it comes to genuine expressions of warmth and affection, you cannot love your child too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love. What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love—things like leniency, lowered expectations or material possessions.”



3. Be involved in your child’s life.

"Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs you to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”



4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child.

“Make sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s development. You may wish you could slow down or freeze-frame your child’s life, but this is the last thing he wants. You may be fighting getting older, but all he wants is to grow up. The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say ‘no’ all the time is what’s motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.”



5. Establish and set rules.

“If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren’t around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself.”



6. Foster your child’s independence.

“Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need both. Accepting that it is normal for children to push for autonomy is absolutely key to effective parenting. Many parents mistakenly equate their child’s independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else.”



7. Be consistent.

“If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion, or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”



8. Avoid harsh discipline.

“Of all the forms of punishment that parents use, the one with the worst side effects is physical punishment. Children who are spanked, hit or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.”



9. Explain your rules and decisions.

“Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to. Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn’t have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have.”



10. Treat your child with respect.

“The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully. You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.”



There is no guarantee that following these guidelines will result in perfect parents... remember, there is no such thing!



“Raising children is not something we think of as especially scientific,” says Steinberg. “But parenting is one of the most well-researched areas in the entire field of social science. It has been studied for 75 years, and the findings have remained remarkably consistent over time."



“The advice in the book is based on what scientists who study parenting have learned from decades of systematic research involving hundreds of thousands of families. What I’ve done is to synthesize and communicate what the experts have learned in a language that non-experts can understand.”



Good parenting, says Steinberg, is “parenting that fosters psychological adjustment—elements like honesty, empathy, self-reliance, kindness, cooperation, self-control and cheerfulness.



“Good parenting is parenting that helps children succeed in school,” he continues. “It promotes the development of intellectual curiosity, motivation to learn and desire to achieve. It deters children from anti-social behavior, delinquency, and drug and alcohol use. And good parenting is parenting that helps protect children against the development of anxiety, depression, eating disorders and other types of psychological distress.”



“There is no more important job in any society than raising children, and there is no more important influence on how children develop than their parents.”



Steinberg's other books include You and Your Adolescent: A Parent’s Guide for Ages 10 to 20 (HarperCollins, 1997), Crossing Paths: How Your Child’s Adolescence Triggers Your Own Crisis (Simon & Schuster, 1994), and Beyond the Classroom: Why School Reform Has Failed and What Parents Need to Do (Simon & Schuster, 1996).



Source: Newswise/Temple University

A week of worthiness

Article taken from http://www.ordinarycourage.com/my-blog/2010/3/8/a-week-of-worthiness.html?lastPage=true#comment7710524



Week of Worthiness. It's all part of the Wholehearted Revolution!




Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone; I am enough.



It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.


So many of us have knowingly created / unknowingly allowed / or been handed down a long list of worthiness "prerequisites."




I'll be worthy when I lose 20 pounds.



I'll be worthy if I get pregnant.



I'll be worthy if everyone thinks I'm a good mom.



I'll be worthy if I can make a living selling my art.



I'll be worthy if I can hold my marriage together.



I'll be worthy when I make partner.



I'll be worthy when I can do it all and look like I'm not even trying.



and so on . . .



Here's what is truly at the heart of Wholeheartedness:



Worthy NOW! Not when. Not if. We are worthy of love and belonging NOW. Right this minute. As is.

To read more pop on over to http://www.ordinarycourage.com/my-blog/2010/3/8/a-week-of-worthiness.