Your past is your story up to now. The future is the story yet to come. The present is where you live with that experience, your hopes and your dreams." A blog about My Journey through life written to share with my Sons when they are older. With a view to my reflections of life and experiences and some tips on life's lessons that they or others might encounter. Hope you enjoy what you read. Thanks to all who have taken time to read my posts
I am a seeker of the truth. Honesty & Integrity are very important to me. I am a student of life who Loves to learn from Life and friends. I live by a system of values and honorable principles.
I am a harmony seeking idealist. I am keen to understand others,and what makes them tick.I seek ways to improve my mental ability.
The beginning of wisdom is experience. Knowledge is the act of knowing, Wisdom is the Act of Being. “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ~Aristotle
We cannot always predict the future: but we can experience, and learn from, the present.
Quote by Rachel Carson
I sincerely believe that for the child, and for the parent seeking to guide him, it is not half so important to know as to feel. If facts are the seeds that later produce knowledge and wisdom, then the emotions and the impressions of the senses are the fertile soil in which the seeds must grow. The years of early childhood are the time to prepare the soil. Once the emotions have been aroused -- a sense of the beautiful, the excitement of the new and the unknown, a feeling of sympathy, pity, admiration or love -- then we wish for knowledge about the subject of our emotional response. Once found, it has lasting meaning. It is more important to pave the way for the child to want to know than to put him on a diet of facts he is not ready to assimilate.
Have you taken the first step to living a More meaningful, purpose filled life?
Life is a Journey
Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step,” and so it is with the art of purposeful living. Make a promise to yourself today to take that first step toward a more meaningful, purpose-filled life for a more rewarding, fulfilling future.
How to live your life with purpose
First find your strengths. What do your friends and family compliment you on?
What inspires you? What are your natural talents?
What are you Passionate about?
What are your Personal Values?
How can your Personal Values serve others?
Look at what you're passionate about and then decide on your Goals in life.
When deciding what your life purpose is, Look at your values.
Your Personal values will help you identify your goals. You goals may help you to see what you're passionate about. What makes you happy and contented. Once you have identified these, the next step is taking One step forward to living your life with purpose
What are your personal Values?
Personal Values determine Our Goals and Outcomes in Life.
The goals we choose, are the outer expression of our Personal Values.
Personal Values are a major motivating force for people because they categorise how people attach meaning and importance to things they value.
My Personal Values are:
Living a Life of Honesty and Integrity.
Being Dependable and on time.
Helping Others with personal needs
Living a life obtaining knowledge.
I constantly strive to learn and grow as a person.
The Believing family is of fundamental importance.
Educating oneself and sharing this knowledge
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
Our Personal Values reflect who we are.
A person's identity and personality are held together by their Values and Beliefs
"Its not hard to make a decision when you know what your values are" Ray Disney
I believe Honesty is the best policy and Trust has to be earned.
Choose your personal Values from this list.
Knowing who you are & what you stand for. Understanding your core values & beliefs - then you can start building your own personal unique brand
It is important that you identify your core values, but it is even more important that you live by these values
Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step,” and so it is with the art of purposeful living. Make a promise to yourself today to take that first step toward a more meaningful, purpose-filled life for a more rewarding, fulfilling future.
Integrity—more than simple honesty, it's the key to success.
Quote
by Zig Ziglar
With integrity you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt. With fear and guilt removed you are free to be and do your best.
In Integrity, Dr. Cloud explores the six qualities of character that define integrity, and how people with integrity:
Are able to connect with others and build trust
Are oriented toward reality
Finish well
Embrace the negative
Are oriented toward increase
Have an understanding of the transcendent
Integrity is not something that you either have or don't, but instead is an exciting growth path that all of us can engage in and enjoy.
How to live your life with integrity,
Keep your promises even if that means effort.
Never betray a friends trust.
Be loyal to partner.
Do not talk badly of others.
Return money or wallet that you noticed someone dropped without expecting a reward.
Ignore advice from someone who gives you advice on how to cheat on your taxes.
do not let someone take the blame for something you did.
Remember, understanding the actions caused by integrity starts with knowing what is important and holding fast to that idea, even when it is not convenient or to your benefit.
Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.” - W. Clement Stone
I am also a confident, Self-supporting woman who marches to my own beat. I may not look like a model who just walked off the cover of a magazine but i know I scrub up well. I love to wear sexy, smart clothes. I am not afraid to try new things, have no inhibitions, and it takes a lot to shock me
This board reflects :
Words and pictures that speak to me,
Words and pictures that I relate to,
Words and pictures that describe the way I see myself and my way of thinking.
There are also some pins I have added that offer some advice to which I want to remember in the future.
So I share with you Pins taken from the above board and from
I speak with honesty, I think with Sincerity and I Act with integrity.
I believe that if we do not speak truthfully and honestly we are not living a soulful life. instead we are living in fear of being found out, relying on our memory not to fail in the lies we have told. If you tell the truth you have nothing to remember. I have made mistakes in my life through immaturity, ego, lack of knowledge, and ignorance. I am now at an age and have enough intelligence to know that on Judgement day there would be no reason to justify living a life of Dishonesty so I choose to live My life with honesty, and integrity. This is something I pride myself on. I can honestly say that I Can't think of a single person that I currently know that hasn't lied or deceived me. In my experience I find that people who live their life by dishonesty are usually very pessimistic in their view of life and others
I do love life, but it hasn't always been this way. I do count my blessings each day as I have a lot to be grateful for. I love my mind, I love to inspire others and help others on Journey of Self Discovery. I love New friends, from near and afar, I love who I have become, the challenges I have overcome And the insight I have into my Own weaknesses and Imperfections that I am working on daily.I am open minded, not judgemental, and love to be around people who are intelligent and can help me on the path of my inner self- discovery seeing me in a way that I do not see myself.
If I can't so someone a good turn, I certainly won't do them a bad turn. My conscience
would not allow me to. I was brought up following the ten commandments and I think if people followed these rules, life would be more peaceful and the world would be a friendlier place.
I hate the part of me that doubts and mistrusts others, but through many things forced upon me by others it has left me with these negative views on life.
I have always believed that there is good in everyone all you need to do is look for it. But it isn't that easy when faced with People who have Narcissistic personalities or are alcohol or drug dependent.
My inner perfectionist is astonished at the literary mistakes, grammatical and punctuation errors that I have made in the above article but I am trying to share parts of myself in a short article as an introduction in words to who I am without the perfectionist part of me taking over.
I am independent, creative, artistic, poetic and love literature and words. If you check out my boards you will see I have a wide range of interests, ranging from Art, Crafting, D.I.Y, Books, Quotes and words. I love Faces,portraits, eyes and lips and creative nails. I love boots and masks. Although I do believe we should never hide behind a mask but show our authentic selves, But each of us puts on different masks throughout the day hiding parts of ourselves we are not ready to show or reveal to others.
I like my Country and western board because it reminds me of good times
(and the one who got away,)but remained a true and faithful friend even though 20+ years have passed us by. My favourite music and my line dancing days with my ex- hubby.
I am a free spirit who like my own space but also likes company, I do my best, I love with all my heart and soul. I am hard working, creative and unique.
this board then leads to places I would love to visit and my dream place would be JAPAN
I have been interested in the
Japanese culture since I was 12 years old following a school trip to china town. London
The closest I have come to visiting the orient is a three-week trip to Hong Kong
The next set of boards shares my interest in
Photography and my wide range of interests amongst these
boards like
My love of animals
,Astronomy,
Sunsets and sunrises,
the moon, and
the rain.
I also love the four seasons, especially Autumn.
The breathtaking beauty of Nature,
the sea, and
Waterfalls
My love of Birds especially Birds of prey. -( that is Eagles and Owls)
I love all wild cats,
foxes,
wolves,
monkeys
and snakes.
I love interior design and I
love to decorate my home with beautiful things. I have a passion for things of an aesthetic and mystical nature.
I like my home to reflect who I am, my interests and uniqueness.
For example -
My kitchen is silver and black and I did have a Harley Davidson theme.
My sitting room had an Egyptian theme
and My passageway had a gothic/Dragon theme.
My bathroom is Nautical
and My bedroom is Oriental.
My office/craft room has a Me to you bear theme and contains over 400 ceramic Tatty bears
But I am bored with these themes and Now I want to get rid of my materialistic home and have a home that is minimalistic. I felt more at peace without the clutter and the high maintenance
home in which I have found myself currently living in.
My son used to have a Bart Simpson theme bedroom before it changed to a
gothic style that lasted for a short time. He then left home
I collect Swarovski crystal because of its beauty class and elegance
my two favourite pieces of my collection.
I have a passion for music, poetry,performance and visual arts
Besides being a fantastic poet who shares his romantic thoughts, he also shares his struggles through life and overcoming his demons through the words of poetry. I love his poetry and what a hunk. I love the way he describes the beauty of a woman.
Besides searching for the truth, My purpose on this earth and my true calling I am also searching for a Male companion who always lives his life with honesty and integrity. I would like him to also be sincere, truthful. respectful, intelligent, kind, and be able to make me laugh.
I want a man who knows how to maintain a healthy relationship, loves women and is prepared to let me support him on his journey. And I would like him to support me on mine. I want a man that follows his heart and not easily talked out what he wants by his friends and family. I want a man who will listen to advise from others but decides his own destiny. I want a man who is emotionally strong as a future plan on how he sees his life and is willing to take a risk or two.
Kiss Me Passionately, Kiss me like you mean it!
I want a man who is a giver as well as a receiver. I don't want a relationship that is one sided and the guy just drains me emotionally, physically and spiritually. I want a man who can love me and help me to become a better me. I want a man who is passionate in the bedroom and isn't afraid to explore or talk about his fantasies with me. I want someone who can also express his fears and dreams.
I want to be his best friend and he mine, and I want to be able to talk about everything and anything and he shares a genuine interest as talk until the early communicating sharing and listening
He must have family values or at least understand the importance of family as My Sons, and my Grandson is the reason for my existence. I can't imagine Living if I did not have these Men (and baby) in my life.
I know I exist separate to my lads but through their lives, I have hope and a vision Of a wonderful future with happy memories to be made and knowledge I can pass on.
I would like him to be optimistic, love life children, animals and me. Get on with my boys and show them respect as I would expect my boys to show my future partner the same courtesy
I am a caregiver by nature. I am warm, loving and person. i am kind. I am Compassionate. I care. I love. I am sensitive. I hurt. I have feelings. I am service oriented and have a desire to please and make people happy. Sadly some people take my kindness as a weakness and think they can walk all over me. I am very patient and can tolerate a lot but a time will come when I can see clearly that I am only of use if I am giving and they are taking and that is when it is time for me to walk away. It is because of my caregiving personality that I followed the career path into helping the aged, teaching adults with learning difficulties and teaching children. I was also a manageress of a hotel that housed the homeless
I am trustworthy. I respect others choices in life, their views and opinions. I am open minded, non- judgemental and will help anyone. But i won't tolerate being lied to, betrayed, or stolen from.
I don't hold grudges. Trust is everything to me as I believe that without trust you can't really have a friendship or relationship. I forgive as I know everyone has weaknesses and we are all human and make mistakes. I never forget. Do my children an injustice and our friendship will automatically end and We will go separate ways.
I have a great sense of humour and will make people laugh when their spirits are low. I am good at hiding how i feel if I can see someone needs cheering up.
I want someone who gets excited that there is mail in his email box from me, thinks about me when he is alone with his thoughts and feels happy, safe and loved when he thinks of me.
This is a little bit of information about me, the surface of me but like an onion, there are many layers to peel before you get to know the whole me.
I hear the words, the thoughts, the feeling tones, the personal meaning, even the meaning that is below the conscious intent of the speaker. Sometimes too, in a message which superficially is not very important, I hear a deep human cry that lies buried and unknown far below the surface of the person. So I have learned to ask myself, can I hear the sounds and sense the shape of this other person's inner world? Can I resonate to what he is saying so deeply that I sense the meanings he is afraid of, yet would like to communicate, as well as those he knows?
Carl R Rogers
Honesty
Honesty is the first chapter of the book wisdom.” ― Thomas Jefferson
Trust
A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter: "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said: "No, Dad. You hold my hand." "What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.
Empathy
Sympathy means feeling sorry for someone going through a bad situation, while empathy means putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and feeling what they are feeling.
Compromise
Compassion
I've learned that I have a lot of compassion for people. I've learned that crying and admitting when you're wrong are signs of strength, not weakness. I've learned that love is more important than money, power, or sex. I've learned that forgiveness heals everyone, most importantly you. I've learned that laughter is truly the best medicine for the soul. I've learned that you can't take life too seriously. I've learned that sometimes listening to what others have to say is the best therapy. I've learned that how people treat you is their karma and how you react is yours. I've learned that I've learned a lot, but still know very little.
Love
Ways To Get To A Girls Heart-- 1. Hug her from behind. 2. Grab her hand when you guys walk next to each other. 3. When standing, wrap your arms around her. 4. Cuddle with her. 5. Dont force her to do ANYTHING! 6. Write little notes. 7. Compliment her. 8. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible. 9. Say I love you.....and MEAN IT! 10. Brush the hair out of her eyes 11. Comfort her when she cries. 12. Love her with all your heart Girls- add this if you think its sweet. Guys- add this if you would do any of it
Finally, in order to make these 7 essential ingredients work for you in any type of relationship endeavor on which you choose to embark, it is necessary to be balanced. Balance or moderation is paramount in anything we do; but most especially in our interactions with each other. The more balanced our relationships are, the more pleasant they will be. The more pleasant they are, the happier we will be and the longer those relationships will last.
In fact, once more of us practice moderation in our lives and in our relationships with others, the sooner hatred, enmity and war will be a thing of the past.
